Two very nice young gay men are moving into our neighborhood. How should we welcome them? ? As coordinator for our local civic club I want to make these guys welcome and become an integral part of our community. |
| As someone has already said, just welcome them as you would anyone else. Is civic club coordinator you might personally call on them and welcome them on behalf of the community and, at the same time invite them to join the club. |
Tons of questions from a VERY young gay teen? Hi everyone sorry for all the questions...
People get gay vibes from others, right? So if girls ask me out, do I not have that vibe? If not, how do I show that vibe without being different?
I am having really strong urges that masturbation isn't "fixing". How do I control them? and lastly, If STDs are only passed on by a partner then how did it start in the first place? LOL that one was out of curiosity. Thank you for the advice! |
first answer: when girls come up to you, its flattering in a way, but you don't have to make your sexuality a show. if a girl was to come up to you, simply tell her "sweetie, i'm gay" with the brightest smile, she'll walk away feeling like a total dumbass.
second answer: you can't control them, its one of those things.
third answer: it was an epidemic, **** happens. |
Did anyone else realize they were gay very young and found school really hard? i am 13 and schools soo tough. |
yessss I came out in grade 7 at my dumb Christian school and then next 2 years were the hardest time of my entire life.
Don't worry, they'll grow up in a few years.... |
Have any of you had any very young 'gay experiences'? Have any of you LGBT had any gay experiences when you were guys? Im gay and i always wonder why i am gay and i know that it is probably biolgical but i wonder could it due to any gay experiences at young age? Im just curious to see your own opinions. Thanks |
| yes i did, when i was 10, i experienced my first ********, and when i was 12 i received my first ******* in my butt from a next door neighbor he was 17, from that time on till now being 60 i had gay sex with boys, teens college and men |
How many people knew they were gay at a very young age? I have never liked girls in my life........I always just had a thing for guys. How many people here are gay and is it true that you can be born gay? |
| Well, I know one of my best friends knew he was gay since he was very little... I'm thinking about third grade or so? He thought he was before that, but I believe third grade was when he had his first crush and such. |
Why do some gay men have feminine voices at a very young age? I guess this is a matter of nature vs nurture yet again, but some men develop the "gay voice" (feminine, sometimes a slight drawl) at a very young age and some develop it slowly. What causes this... phenomenon? Please don't answer if you think this question is offensive, I'm trying to ask as easily as I can.
PS - I am a proud supporter of the gay community in Ptown where I live; I'm just curious. |
| I'm thinking its because of their higher estrogen levels? |
What were clues when you were very young that you were probably gay? any little stories?
It's not necessary that you realized it then... it could be things that you look back on now and you think "yup...that was definitely gay." haha |
I'm actually Bisexual so I hope you don't mind me answering this. :3
I've always been attracted to women. Like...I would look at girls the same way as guys. But developed stronger feelings towards girls more.
I usually date more guys. But when I date girls, the relationship is more meaningful and lasts longer. Where with guys, they tend to fall for me more than I do for them. So yes, I lean towards girls more. But I'm not Lesbian.
But when I was in Elementary school I always thought that's just how you looked at everyone. That it wasn't "Oh you're Gay/Bisexual". I just saw it as a crush. Then in middle school I realized what it was. I was scared because I thought I was a freak. But now in High school, (I'm a Junior), I realize that it is what it is. So I might as well work with what I've got. And now I'm proud to be who I am. And my parents, wow they've been so accepting and helpful. When I first told my mom, I was like "Mom...I need to tell you something...I'm Bisexual". And she was like "Oh my God. I thought something bad happened". And I told her "But mom...aren't you disappointed or anything? What if I end up with a girl in the future?" and she said "Then you end up with a girl? Honey either way I love you. You're my baby. I just want you to end up with someone you love and who appreciates and loves you for who you are. You know I'm proud of you no matter what". My dad said the same thing. :D
Anyways, that's my story of finding out my sexual orientation. :D
Best of luck,
Emily.
(: |
Are there any particular Cultures where it is common that young gay men date older men? Does anyone know are there any countries where it is very common for young gay guys to date older guys? |
You need to carefully define your use of the word "date". In many cultures men and women are not allowed to co-mingle so the only option is to always "date" another man, young or old. Also, it's considered a learning experience for a younger man to have an older friend, possibly seen as a mentor. In the West we have demonized the idea that a young man and an older man can have a meaningful relationship with no suggestion of sex. In the Maori culture it's common practice for men to bind themselves emotionally to one another to present a stronger front in battle. In one sense the American Marine Corp encourages strong bonds between all their troops to, again, present a more unified fighting front.
If however, you mean "date" in a sexual sense then the outlook changes. The Greeks had Hoplite warriors who were specifically older men with younger lovers. Again, the idea was to present a unified fighting force in that it was thought neither would desert the other. A theory which proved remarkably accurate as they were much feared.
If I had a son who was openly homosexual and wished to date an older man, I'd encourage it. Better with someone who has some stability and isn't looking for the short term "affaire". |
I have had gay experiences when i was very young with my friends and family and am worried about my soul? I know I made a mistake and I would do anything to take it back I have asked for forgivness from god and I just feel lost I am sorry for what I have done and I just don't feel like he has forgiven me |
| What would it take for you to feel that you have been forgiven? |
Why do some people find out of being gay when they're very young, while others find it out a lot later ? most of the people finds out to be gay at the first appearance of their sexual desires.. so more or less at the age of 13-14-15, some others finds out a lot of time later, maybe even after 30 years of age, after having had lots of etherosexual relationships...
why is that ?
is that due to the fact that they're actually "less gay" than people who finds it out on puberty? or does it just depend on carachter?
maybe people who recognize of being gay very late are just feeble persons who are more exposed to the influence of society on sexual orientation ? |
| I think it's a matter of when you finally accept your self and understand who you are... not really "finding out" what you are. Know what I mean? |